This is a guest blog submitted by wuwu.There's a cute guy in my class.. but alas, I am confined by the bars of taken-hood. Regardless, it's probably better this way; mixing academics with romance is a bad idea. When my boyfriend and I took a political science class together last year, we were coincidentally put in the same discussion and THEN into the same group. It was a small group consisting of us two and another guy. I wonder if the other guy ever knew we had a thing going on. If I were him and knew, I would've felt extremely awkward. We did break up during that quarter and seeing him in both class and discussion (and group meetings!) was just too weird for words.
Eventually, we did patch things up and we've been good since then; however, there is a class next quarter that we both plan to take. We've both sworn not to tell each other which discussion we plan to take because I don't want to have that in mind when I pick out my classes. It might sway me to pick it because the idea of spending more time with someone you admire is appealing at first.. but if things go sour, it's just horrible. I'm iffy about taking the same classes with him.
What do you think about taking classes with your significant other? I suppose it's the precursor to working together
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I think it would be a distraction for me since I can be knotty with him, at times. ;p haha.
I've taken classes with my boyfriends. It wasn't an issue except he never did his HW and I always did, so I thought he was lazy LOL
Distraction! I had a class with a friend, then she was a girlfriend, then we broke up....then the distraction/iffy levels shot through the atmosphere. I believe I ended up getting a D in that class.
Not cool. -_-
Good : You guys can help each other out in homework/ study together
Dont have to COMPLAIN how "I ONLY SEE MY BF ONCE A MONTH" - cause you see each other in class every other day / everyday*
Bad: Yeah when you guys break up, you'll have to see him in class, theres no avoiding,
and it would suck* even more if he /she is flirting with another guy / girl in your class and you're watching it all
Personally, I wouldn't do it. I get distracted enough already without a boyfriend adding to it.
I see no reason why people can't or shouldn't do it though if they're good students or want a study-buddy that they're comfortable with. About the only situations I would avoid doing it in are one like mine (easily distracted) or extremely touchy-feely couples (potential alienate other people).
I think it depends on the relationship and if ground rules are laid before hand.
my boyfriend at the time, his brother, and i all took a class together last spring and it was awesome! probably one of the most fun classes i've had at college! we studied together and could talk about the concepts we learned in class, which was great. however it wasn't required for any of our majors and we all did well. it could definitely be awkward if one person struggled, or of course if you break up in the middle. i think it just depends on the situation and the people involved.
It works just fine for me and my boyfriend. We take one class together everyone in the class knows we are together b/c its a writing class and we write about eachother. lol He is a better writer then I am so it works out well for us. We live together tho so we really arent breaking up anytime soon.
It depends on your preferences and maturity level. I like having someone to study with, and someone to talk to about a class. It eases my stress. It's just better to me than doing it alone. Even though my ex and I broke up mid-semester, I'm still glad he is in my class. We still talk, are friends (not that it's not akward for me), and are nice and helpful to one another. We are mature enough to get over it, basically.
It's one thing if you see each other ALL the time and would rather have school to yourself, or if you prefer to keep business separate from private life. but otherwise I kind of think that if you can't handle having your significant other in class with you, it is a small reflection on the maturity of your relationship.
it all depends on how long the class is (not hour wise, week wise.)
and on whether you two will be able to avoid conflict over that class. my boyfriend and i, before we laid some ground rules, that whatever happens in that class stays in that class, unless we're working on the homework later that day.
because our biggest problem was that one of us would do the homework and the other wouldn't, or there would be a project we worked on together and only one would do a lot of the work. things like that got us into little spats. but we decided that, if we were going to make this class work, we had to leave the shit that happens in the classroom, in the classroom. you know?
I think it's better not to take the same classes, spending too much time together, even during the classes, will make seeing each other not as special... plus the fact that you mentioned about things going sour.
It'd be a distraction for me.
That's sorta like a double-edge sword. Sure, you can study together, but then you could also be distracted easily. I never had to make this choice in the past, but I probably wouldn't purposely try to schedule similar classes with a SO unless it was say a P.E. class.
I met my current boyfriend in class - we're both grad students. We're doing group work together with a few friends and it's been working fine. My only problem is that the class is boring and the relationship is new, and so being in class together, and sitting next to each other, is incredibly distracting. It will be the only class we have together because we're in different programs, but I've enjoyed it so far.
Actual school....i don't think it's the best idea. BUT! If you have a class to help you two with your relationship or...job, then it's okay.
i've taken classes with my bf, a couple actually. yeah, it gets distracting, but i feel more willing to go to class and doing the work etc. we would always kind of pair off together to do class work.
but i guess it does have its up and downs. if he gets lazy, it would affect me too, vice versa. but overall it was fun
there are a guy and lady in my class, and it seemed like during every break, the guy would always be bothering her and she would be completely blowing him off. and then i found out that they're married!
sad...
Thought it would be awesome if my boyfriend had the same classes as me, I don't think I'd want him in my class. Not only would I be distracted and just want to stare at him the whole time, after we'd break up it would be really hard. Thankfully I'm in college and my boyfriend is in his Senior year of High School. Plus he lives three hours away.
Taking classes with your significant other is not for the faint of heart...
Shit will happen...People will be in your business...People will know when you're in the middle of a fight...Girls that don't like you will hit on your boyfriend and guys that don't like your boyfriend will try to fuck you...They will hit on you right in front of your boyfriend and you will think they are just being friendly...It's hard to be professional and such in a school environment when all you want to do is bang each others brains out...
When you break up (trust me, it's inevitable...), going to class or discussion will lose it's luster...People are forced to pick sides...One of you will go out of their way to avoid the other...You may even start flirting with other guys in front of him just to get a rise, and even if you aren't, he may not react favorably...Just not a good idea to mix...
Also not for the faint of heart...fucking your coworkers...Not a good plan unless you intend on fucking the rest of the office...People get jealous and some people are just haters...
I wouldn't do it. There's serious potential awkwardness involved. Not to mention that you're in class, something that you may not like so much, and you're sharing that with boyfriend. That could either be really awesome, because he could make it better (if you're really close) or it could drive a wedge between you. I've seen people break up who were in the same class going out too many times. The two of you will be studying together regardless, as you're in the same class, but I really hope that you aren't grouped together. I just wouldn't do it.
No. I need my space and penis's are a distraction!
Well, all of my other SOs (with the exception of my current one) never had classes with me because they were morons (honestly). I would hate it because I'm so academically competitive. Same thing goes for dating a coworker or a person who plays in the same section as me in the symphony. That's a no-go.
I used to have orchestra and band and stuff with my current guy (before we were dating) and I always lost count of rests making faces at him from across the room, or he would distract me by throwing things at me while I was playing.
Mature, I know. We're best friends, though! haha :P
I think it can work, but you need to get out of that habit of thinking "it's more quality time with my SO". There's always time for everything, and class time is not SO time.
I'm in college and my boyfriend and I are in all of the same classes, except two, this semester, and one next semester.
We live together and have one car, which he can't drive, plus we enjoy each other's company and help in the classes.
When you're in a class together, you don't act like a girlfriend and boyfriend, you act like friendly classmates. You don't need to make goo-goo eyes and whisper sweet nothings just to prove you're dating.
Most people I know don't care if two people are dating, and they are around them.
I met my present boyfriend through my course at university, and we're in the same production group. It's nice at times, but sometimes I get frustrated with seeing him so much... I would like to concentrate on WORK, too.