Friday, November 14, 2008

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  • haloed@xanga

    She may not want to just be friends, but is only able to say that for whatever situation she is currently in (possibly a recent break up).

    Be understanding, but don't allow yourself to drop into the friend zone.  Being friends and being in the friend zone are two separate occurrences.

  • Roadlesstaken@xanga
  • oOBuBBLes711Oo@xanga

    it is a good sign. Popular or most visited sites show up on google. So good job to Datingish!

  • AVictimofGravity@xanga

    It is a good sign. She is being upfront and honest, and attempting to preserve the friendship that already exists.

  • kawasaki_saiyan@xanga

    this mind has gone blank...  haha~  anyways, it could go either way..  really depends on the situations..  sometimes when they say they just want to be friends, it could just mean that they want to be friends now and may likely lead into something more in the future..  and there's a possibility that it could mean "(i don't feel that way about you) let's just be friends" so throw away and forget about any feelings you have towards me, because it's not going to work out *i just know it*..

    those are the two scenarios i can think of at the moment (like i said, my mind went blank, and i'm sure there are a few more scenarios), but you know what, girls don't really know what they want, they think they do, but they really don't..  and sometimes they say things that they don't mean..

    but yeah, if i were you, i'll be aware of how she reacts towards you and avoid doing anything that will put you in the friend's zone, if she keeps pushing you back (mentioning the word, friend) and at the same time, pursuing other guys, it's a bad sign..

    good luck, and may the forks be with you..

  • TakingxOverxMe@xanga
  • RunningMan42@xanga

    That is a way for them to say "not a chance in hell"  95% of the time.

  • Adnilly@xanga

    bad sign for you if you want something more.

  • MrsMok@xanga

    BALLOONS. Obviously, duh! What? Are you stupid?

    With helium, btw. 
  • sugababi303x@xanga

    by me being a girl i can say that it can mean a few diffent things. usually you can tell if a girl is into you or not. (usually is the keyword here) by her body language, etc. but not always. and if you want to know all you have to do is ASK! remembering there is a fine line between being creepy and genuinely 'curious'. a girl isn't going to think you're stupid for being real about how you feel about her. it shows you are a man but you too have feelings and are comfortable with expressing them (kudos for youu) but remember that there is a fine line.


     im gona tell you about a situation i was in with this guy i recently met. The night that i met him i thought he was pretty cool and thought maybe it could've evolved into a relationship later on down  the road. but then right away he seemed to be really into me and started to get kind of creepy/clingy. i mean calling me everyday several times a day, wanting to see me everyday, calling me 'baby' && 'sexy' (which was actually offending) etc!! so i told him i didnt want to rush into a relationship because i had a lot going on in my life (school, work, plus i had just moved a few days after i met him) & i just wanted to be friends (thinking there still might've been a chance in the future) & he seemed to understand. well he asked me a few days after that if i just wanted to be friends with benefits or f*ck buddies. not exactly what i had in mind. like at all. i was thinking ok this guy is a fcking moron. THEN!!! he asked me of ways to ask a girl out..@ first i thought he was actually changing his game up for me but then he said it was because his ex-girlfriend recently came back into the picture and he wanted to get with her. I was like WTF?!! LMAO!! Granted, i figured he didn't fully understand what i really meant but it kind of hurt my feelings b/c just a few days ago he was acting like he was cool with it and willing to wait a little.


     then he completely ignored me for a couple weeks until it didn't work out with his ex and he started dropping subtle hints that he [still] liked me. like after we got off the phone he would text me saying that he'd miss me and he will dream about me and whatever. why wouldn't he say that on the phone? it was just so awkward. i consciously made a decision NOTto do anything to lead him on and i kind of ignored his hints and weird lines thinking he'd get the fcking point that i wanted to really only be friends && I was not having it . i did not want to ruin our so called friendship  and i was afraid he wouldn't wanna hang out anymore (plus we have a lot of the same friends), but he kept doing the same things so i told him one day when he asked if i wanted to hang out that we could hang out but i just wanted him to know we were friends and friends only. he rushed me off the fone and hasn't called back since.


    so my biggest suggestion is to really ask and be clear when communiating.my case is/was kind of strange and i doubt you're going through taht but really when you're in a relationship with someone you need to be honest and realistic about your expecations and intentions  and be true to yourself to avoid mishaps. but it isn't always that easy especialy when you hear/find out what you dont want to hear/find out. but it's better to be 100% real because the truth is inevitable anyways. kawasaki also has some good points/tips. good luck!

  • MeanwhileInATownCalledSpoons@xanga

    I'm confused on what "is that a good sign?" is referring to. Is it a good sign that the girl just wants to be friends...or is it a good sign that someone found Datingish?


    Since the 2nd option makes more sense, I think it is a good sign. Someone types in a dating-related question and they get a dating-releated site. So good job to the dating-related site: Datingish. :D


    And...balloons? What's that supposed to mean? Or is that just really random and means nothing... ;)

  • Richal@xanga

    This is poorly worded.  I'm not sure if I'm supposed to say, "No, it isn't a good sign when a girl says that" or "yes, it's a good sign that datingish was found by googling that phrase." 

    For the record, I voted in accordance with the latter assumption.

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